Enough to Make You Blush: An Introduction to Erotic Humiliation (Updated 2023)

Humiliation is a complex and varied fetish that offers many lifestyle players lots of options for embarrassing, degrading, or humiliating play. Misperceptions and stereotypes, even within the kink world, contribute to the widespread assumption that this kind of play is abusive by nature, but humiliation isn’t just about smeared mascara and groveling under boots; it’s also about exploring vulnerability, trust, control, and sacrifice through absurdity, amusement, and consensual cruelty.

Based on her popular book, Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, this workshop will unpack the psychological, emotional, and erotic desires around consensual psychological and emotional torment play. We’ll explore its motivations, behaviors, levels of intensity, and language, and we’ll identify common ways to play. 

The workshop is based on Kali’s 20+ years of experience as a professional and lifestyle dominatrix, as well as on the insights from her groundbreaking survey of more than 1,000 erotic humiliation enthusiasts on where their erotic humiliation fantasies come from, their experiences bringing those fantasies to life, and their opinions on the safety, ethics, and cultural foundations of erotic humiliation—just for starters.

During this workshop, you will learn:

• About erotic humiliation and the different levels of intensity
• How to tell the difference between healthy play and abuse
• How an action can be humiliating if someone asks for it
• Why a desire for humiliation play doesn't always "make sense"
• Stereotypes and myths that might be hindering your play
• How to bring up your desire for erotic humiliation play
• The 10 most important negotiation questions (plus 6 bonus humiliation questions)
• How to create shortcuts for headspace and communication
• The huge range of erotically humiliating activities you can choose from!

This class is good for anyone with an interest in psychological kink, anywhere on the spectrum of experience or power dynamic.